The beauty of waiting

Last night was a a great youth service. It was our february special and of course it was filled with love. I remember blogging about waiting for that one special person and be with him/her for the rest of your life, it’s just wonderful isn’t it?

Well last night i was reminded that there is beauty in patiently waiting  for that person which God is molding to become your lifetime partner. And as you wait you must allow yourself to go into the process where in God will mold you to become the right one for your right one. Makes sense right? And waiting means a lot of things. It means running away from sexual temptation, it means growing spiritually, it means learning to be come a righteous man or woman, it means running away from anything that will hinder you from being pure and holy before your future spouse and of course before your God.

I remember back when i was ten years old i already asked God to help me become the woman He wants me to be and guide me into knowing a man who He wanted me to be my husband. I am one of those girls who wanted a first and last relationship. And up to now i have never dated anyone. It isn’t because i never found someone attractive or it isn’t because i’ve never felt how it was to be in love, it is because i prayed and God is certainly molding me and also the man for me, and it is because my desire is in abiding in God’s will & time and not in my own selfish desire and shallow understanding of love. 

But don’t get me wrong you don’t sin once you have gotten into previous relationships. It’s just that when you really seek God there’s no need to be in and out of relationships, you get what i’m saying? Because God has a purpose for you and He doesn’t want you to get involve emotionally and much more physically with someone who isn’t going to be your lifetime partner. He wants your heart to be given to that right man/woman who will honor you and who will Honor God in your relationship. And i also do believe that sex is for marriage, for married couples alone.

Isn’t it beautiful when you’re already in front of the altar, in front of the people you love and in front of God, and know that this person beside me is the only one i have ever loved this much, this person beside me is the one i have waited for ever so patiently, this person beside me is the only one, and this person beside me was from God. And you get to say the sincerest i love you’s and vows. And you get to have that kiss also.

Boys and girls of this generation i tell you waiting is one of the best decisions you will ever make. We are young and we tend to be aggressive in different things, DO NOT RUSH. The purpose of courtship & dating is in preparation for marriage. When you start courting or when someone starts courting you take a really close look and think ” Is this the person i want to share the rest of my life with?” and if the answer is no, then don’t go any further. Because without wanting that man or woman to be your lifetime partner is a relationship without a purpose. It is super cool to stay single. again i say it is super cool. Paul even wrote that He wished everyone is just single as he was (1 Corinthians 7:7).. But of course God has unique plans for each of us.

So to end this post. Everybody run after God and He will give you the desires of your heart. He will lead you into a wonderful relationship, and He will strengthen you. And again i will say this 

Fall in love with Christ first before falling in love with someone else, then make sure you keep falling in love with Christ.

Trisha

Now i know that happiness can be found in loving You and most especially by being Loved by You.

LOVE YOUR NEIGHBORS AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF

Have you ever experienced knowing someone you just cannot like and you get irritated with whatever she/he does? Well I went through that kind of feeling. I know that that person is not doing anything totally wrong towards me, but i think i just dont liker her attitude. And for so many times i’ve been so rude towards that person, yet she still considers me as a friend. She tells me her deepest secrets, when i completely do not deserve any of them because im not good towards her.

I talked to her many many times about that and every time i’ll ask her if she wants to say anything or if she have any hurts because of me, she’ll say ” i dont have any, i understand you ” and i was like you’re just TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE. And i hated that moment when she got nothing to say about me, i felt guilty of it all. I felt like, I AM CAUSING YOU SO MUCH PAIN AND HURT yet still you value me and say you understand me?? 

Yesterday i got to talk with my other friend about that and we arrived in the conclusion that MAYBE JUST MAYBE THE LOVE SHE HAS FOR ME IS JUST ENDURING. Enduring all the hurts just to keep me as a friend. And i realize that it might be true. And my friend told me that GOD has been speaking to her about that person and she said ” i know she needs our help”

AND then the light bulb went on! YES, she needs our help, she need GOD in her life. Once i have invited that person in church and there was a moment when the people who needs prayer were asked to come forward she told me ” trish i want to come” then i joined her and prayed for her. I know she’s going through a lot of problems concerning family and other things and as a Christian my role is to accept her for what she is and help her go through those problems and just ask GOD to give me the kind of love that could overcome the negative things i see in her. After all GOD said, ” LOVE YOUR NEIGHBORS AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF” for we are all here to help each other and care for one another. 

And yesterday i talked to that person and i said sorry, i confessed everything i have been feeling towards her and i said “ i have come to the realization that maybe your love for me is just enduring and i just can’t love you back the way you love me” but now i want to love her the way i love myself and i said that i hope that our conversation will make a difference in our relationship. 

so if you are going through the same feeling, pray for that person and ask GOD to help you love others even in the worst situations :)

ps. WE ARE ALL LOVED BY GOD